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Housekeeper can’t make daughter’s game
eli.cranor@gmail.com
October 3, 2021
Eli Cranor is a former professional quarterback and coach turned award-winning author. Please use the “Contact” page at elicranor.com to send in questions for “Athletic Support.” |
Dear Athletic Support: We have a housekeeper. We’re really close with her. Her family comes over for cookouts, our daughters are friends, and she cleans our house each week. This week, though, my wife and I were rushing out trying to make it to a volleyball game by four in the afternoon. Our housekeeper smiled and said something like, “Wish I could make it.” That’s when it hit me — her daughter is on the volleyball team too! If I were a turtle, I would’ve crawled deep inside my shell and never come back out. I felt horrid. As we drove to the volleyball game, I started to question so many of the things I worry about as an “athletic” parent. All this really crazy stuff that I like to call “first-world problems.” I mean, I’ve heard parents complaining about everything from playing time to game-time decisions. Heck, one time my wife went to the coach to talk to her about the uniforms! Ugh. I guess the reason I’m writing this is because I wanted to share this realization. This idea that there are parents out there — people like our housekeeper — who don’t have the time to worry over the minutia of their children’s athletic activities. In some cases, they can’t even make it to the games because of their work schedules, and that was a real gut check for me. It really made me question my thought process regarding my daughter’s athletic career. In your opinion, can a parent care too much about his kids’ athletics? Like, would it somehow be better if I didn’t have the time worry so much about practice schedules and performance? Or is my daughter benefitting from the extra attention I’m able to give her?
— Longwinded
Dear Longwinded: There’s a balance to all things. Your daughter’s athletics are important. Sure. But like anything else, you can definitely overdo it too.
My dad has two brothers and a sister. Both his parents worked, and his mother carried all of the load around the house. Dad has said, on multiple occasion, that his mom didn’t have time to worry about the small stuff, and that was a good thing.
In many ways, life is easier than ever now. Our dishes and laundry are washed by machines. We can even pick up our groceries without ever stepping foot in the store!
But with luxury comes responsibility.
What I mean here is that the more time we have to relax, the more time we have to worry, obsess, and generally overthink our lives.
As you well know, this worry has bled over into youth sports. We obsess over the smallest, most inconsequential details, and in many ways ruin what was fun about youth sports to begin with.
So, yeah, take a page out of your housekeeper’s book. Get your hands dirty. Get involved in something else other than youth volleyball, and let your daughter’s season play out organically. Sometimes, too much water can kill a flower faster than a drought.
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